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Balancing Marriage and Children |
One very important component of the balancing act is finding time for your spouse. A healthy marriage is one of the most valuable gifts you can give your children and yourself. Unfortunately, many of us relegate our marriage to the end of the list of priorities.
So how do you find the time for your relationship? The secret is in the scheduling. Without planning in the time for each other too often it just doesn't happen.
Here are a couple ideas:
Regular Check-Ins
Take time to relate thoughts, share experiences and review the next day or week schedule each night. This check-in time last no longer than 5 to 10 minutes. Agree on when you can take the 5-minute break - while doing dishes, right after the kids are asleep or right before bed. This brief check-in keeps both of you in-sync.
Weekly Dates
Make a date every week for dinner or an afternoon lunch. This is time when you can talk about the bigger picture or just enjoy each other. If hiring a baby sitter every Saturday night is too difficult, try sharing sitting nights with friends to trade off your date nights. If evenings don't work for you, lunches can be a nice treat instead.
Vacations
A week away from the kids with your spouse once per year can rejuvenate your marriage and your energy to be great parents. Lodging the kids with relatives or hiring a teacher from school can give your kids time to build other relationships as well.
What I hear on the street is that too few people are taking care of their marriage relationship. If you can't do it for yourself, then think of your kids. if you let your relationship falter and you let the hope of romance die, you will arrive at the end of the parenting years as total strangers.
I can't imagine the profound sense of loss that many couples experience when the children leave and they find themselves totally isolated, with little attraction to each other and no romance. What an unnecessary tragedy.
Source of article - Sandi Epstein
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