Relationship Tips

Tip: Flattery Will Get You Everywhere
Compliment your mate often. Tell them all the things you love and appreciate about them. It´s important for them to hear them from you.

Tip: Count to Ten
If you find self control slipping, take a break. The aim is to resolve the situation, not to "win now". If you can really resolve it tomorrow night, that´s better than screaming all night and making it worse.

Tip: Use Candlelight
Candles are traditionally romantic items, and just having candles around can make an event seem much more intimate. The light is soft and gentle, and even the aromas you choose can be soothing and calming.

Tip: Plan a Surprise!
Part of the allure of romance is that you´re pleasantly surprised by something special. If you always get your love roses, bring daisies instead. If you always buy a card, make one by hand. It doesn´t need to be expensive to be special. Sometimes the best gifts are ones that come from the heart and not from the wallet.

Tip: Know Yourself
The first step in finding a balance in a relationship is to figure out what each person truly wants. Sit down and know what *you* want out of the relationship before taking the step of figuring out how the two of you will merge your needs.

Tip: *Fun is Important!*
If you survey couples that have stayed together for years and years, and ask them what helped them stay together that long, most will say that they *enjoy* each other! It´s human nature, you stay if you´re happy. Learn how to make your own relationship fun, so both you and your partner enjoy it for years to come!

Tip: Cultivate Romance
Love has to be cultivated and demonstrated regularly. Once a week, write and mail your sweetheart a letter describing your feelings. Think of word pictures that express your love. Imagine a scenario in which the two of you could express yourselves fully to each other and write it down.

Tip: The Little Things
With both partners busy, it is often hard to remember to do the small things that keep a relationship going. Once the first blush of the relationship fades, it will always require conscious effort to keep things going smoothly. A kiss before you leave, a call or two during the day, a hug when you come home - the little things remind you both that you really do care.

Tip: Memory Jar
The most romantic and endearing gift I´ve ever received is the "Memory Jar". The memory jar contained memories which we had shared. Each memory was handwritten on separate pieces of pretty paper. As I opened the jar and began unfolding each memory, I laughed and sometimes cried. It´s a wonderful way to reminisce about the memories you´ve created together and to show just how special someone is to you.

Tip: Take a Weekend Break
Sometimes you don´t realize how much the daily grind of work and chores affects you until you get completely clear of it. Give yourself and your relationship that time to rest, recuperate and regain a sense of balance.

Rent a cabin in the woods, go camping by a lake, or get rooms in a hotel somewhere - even just an hour away. Stay with friends or family, or spend the day walking in the woods. Being free of the chores and drudgery of home can give you the mental sweeping that you need. You need the time to be able to look at each other as playmates and lovers instead of simply chore-partners.

Tip: Love isn´t an adjective, it´s a verb!
Love is more than passion and an ecstatic "I love you too." Love means more than sharing a cup of coffee, a toothbrush or exchanging e-mail. Love means "show me." Love means much more than just words. Love means reaching for her hand in the supermarket between the honeydew melons and the tangerines. Love is a verb, an action word. Action means doing, saying, and moving.

We want to hear the words "I love you," yes, but more than that, we want to feel the truth of those words. We know the truth of our partner´s love when we see it acted out every day, in small ways, and large ones.

Tip: Talk To Each Other
For one month, make a strong effort to really talk to each other. It doesn´t have to be about earth-shattering topics, but you can really pay attention when you ask how the day went. Ask questions, learn more about each other, what you do, how you felt about it. After the month is up, you´ll be in much better practice opening up to each other, and it should be easier going forward!

Tip: Reminders of Love
For a month, plan a small gift for your partner for each day. It doesn´t need to cost anything - it could be a lipstick message on the mirror, or a note in a lunchbag, or a flower bouquet delivered to work. Find creative ways to remind your partner of your love and affection. After the month, your love will feel renewed, and you´ll be in practice for occasional touches in the coming months!

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